Church forbade parents did not oppose the customs and mocked those who did not. Therefore Ukrainian youth learned the secrets of love with all the contradictions – and lyubylysya and virginity are not violated . In the early twentieth century there are archaic school relationships as ” street” poll shows that the norms of sexual Ukrainian peasants in 1929.

By sex were wisely

First I want to mention that our ancestors distinguished amazing wisdom. That is what we now call fornication, was considered the norm , the need for procreation for survival. Even the time that the wedding was planned , was chosen so as not to interfere with agricultural operations . This pregnant young wife is not “how could “, and so to take part in planting potatoes in the harvest , and at harvest . During the winter a little child would become virile to a young mother and next year there fell of business ” cage .” Actually the number of children in ancient families is not due to the fact that there was no contraception (as some think ), but that needed working hands. Indeed, the percentage of deaths among infants was very high. So hurry and get married to enrich his family on more workers. The more servants were in the family , the more land it could handle .

Among young people practiced “trial marriage ” and ” sleeping over “. It’s not that parents do not contradicted this at all, but for the most part do not interfere . “Good girl, she sleeps with guys . Sometime, both with guys she did not sleep , you do not schytalosya that she is a girl ” – ropovidaye respondent one of the many ethnographic studies. Began sharing sleeping youth at the time when they began to participate in the ” streets “, ” evenings “, ” Dawn ” and so on.

” The street was asleep “

“Street” – the place of the spring and summer leisure activities for young people 18 – early. 19th century with a typical erotic pidzmistom . Young people after all domestic work were collected ( a walk on the ” street” can girls under the age of 13 years) to sing , joke, talk … Sometimes , on holidays , the boys brought with them alcohol and invited to the ” street” music – then vytantsovuvaly and ” Snowstorm “, and ” quadrille ” … interesting was the fact that the boys could go to any street, where they were more girls like. It was considered indecent when the girls went to someone else ” out .” This is facilitated life frivolous young man who one evening were a girl home to another – another. And another feature guys on ” street” was harvested straw ” sleeping “.

Conduct home is not meant to keep the handle. If the guy with the excommunicated whore – it is obvious why. “Only Thunder thunder in the spring – have each sleeping in the yard . Not on the court and in the barn or … The boys came , they walk, what is the difference to them , “- says an eyewitness .

“Street has two stages . The first – a preparation for the real street. Here strolling boys and girls aged 12 to 15 years. They learn to sing together is how to deal with a girl and start parubkuvat , that is matzoh girls breasts and other places. They hold women back home , but for a long time does not stand under the forest . The second level of the street – this is real girls and guys between 16 and 25 years. Gathered on the pad , the girls all sit handful , and the boys each of them tries to drop the girl in the veil , though she argues, but it did not pomaha because ” whose power of both right” – this slogan Street . Behold vsivshys girl on lap , hugging her , he starts a conversation with her . Singed songs , well, what to do next ? And then the guys start to paw and girls differently everywhere skirt , and under her. Street diverges . Boys Do not os , not to miss the party of the girl with whom he had appointed him to accompany her home . ”

Sharing ” sleeping ” is not considered a shame , couples often change partners for as long as did not appear cordial friendliness : “And the guy and the girl wound up second new heart … girl had often hear the request guys to sleep with her . ”

Girls ‘ treated ‘

With “their” boys girls ” slept ” voluntarily. However, according to eyewitnesses, there was also used to “treat whore ” – this is when the ” street” guys came from another village . ” The boys brought with them strange guys , one guy was considered by the owner and his boys uhoschav foreign girls. Like that wench visiteth strange guy , he shepne the one who brought it , and now he pulls the girl into balls ( straw ) and so it uhoschaye his girlfriend (at the village) , and that ( in turn ) so does at home. As a girl does not want to sleep with a guy so , it forcibly compel , a guy is beat , scolds her and says, ” As I was with them , I gave a girl and you do not want .”

But keep your virginity …

Since sexual education in the family actually paid in time , “street” youth and other forms of entertainment are not the only way to know the essence of ” adulthood “. Thus “street” youth school was kind of relationship. There is nothing shameful in common ” sleeping ” was seen not as long as she did not pozbuvalasya virginity. After maintaining virginity until marriage was a guarantee that the child’s father is indeed the man who marries a girl. We find confirmation of this rule in ethnographic sources: “A girl – or pohribnyku , or shed prymostku do. … And earlier was walking guys sleep with girls , but not occupied. As parents rozrishat girl with the guys down, she sleeps in the house . ” By ” not occupied ” means that there was no sex defloration (all limited petynhom ). That is after sharing ” sleeping ” girl remained physically intact .

Christian rules prohibit discussing such intimate things in the family. My parents tried to separate sex from family life. It was unacceptable to demonstrate feelings of parents to children , talking about love or about the physiology between daughter and mother. However, the usual ritual was ” skroplennya ” land masculine families “that was fertile ,” Andrew erotic rituals, embarrassing singing songs at weddings …

Author : Olga Tereshchuk